Make your move: Luckily, you can harness the power of “excitation transfer” without hanging out at Six Flags all day. A simple Netflix binge at home can do the trick. Fire up your favorite, jump-in-your-seat horror movies—and keep some massage oil handy. “Add some caring touch into the equation, and the bonding hormone oxytocin also blends into the mix,” adds intimacy expert Sheri Meyers, Psy.D.
Make your move: You probably know where this one is going: “Wear red! It’s that simple,” says Yvonne Fulbright, Ph.D., author of The Better Sexx Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking. Too bold for your button-downs? “Consider making it the color of your boxers or briefs,” she says.
Make your move: Shuffling around with your hands stuffed in your pockets won’t cut it. “Take her dancing and don’t be afraid to let go on the dance floor,” suggests Fulbright. But you’ll have to do better than the sprinkler: “Take dancing lessons together, and allow the experts to teach you how you can best move together.”
Make your move: Work up a sweat—together. “Plan to go for a hike,” suggests Fulbright. If you go in for a hug and she complains that you stink, “it’s a good indicator that you may not be the best match, at least reproductively speaking.” But if she digs it, consider yourself in.
Make your move: Drunk and sloppy isn’t the goal, so keep it classy. “Invite her to a tasting at your local wine store.” suggests Sheri Meyers Psy.D. But proceed with caution—Meyers warns that more than two drinks actually constricts blood flow to the genitals. Translation: Leave the box of Franzia at home.