In the chart-topping number, Gold Digger (featuring Jamie Foxx), Kanye West said it best when he sang,
“I ain’t saying she a gold digger but she ain’t messing with no broke nigga.” The entire song is about a very realistic fear that many guys have about their girlfriends, i.e. is she a gold digger?. A gold digger is essentially a lady who is dating your money, your status, your cars or mobiles, basically anything materialistic rather than you. However, finding out whether your girl is a gold digger or not isn’t that easy. If you try to be upfront and seek an explanation from someone who actually loves you, it is a surety that your relationship will meet an instant demise. Rather than directly confronting your girl, try to identify the following traits that are associated typically with gold digging women:
She Keeps Probing Your Finances
You might have told her about your salary but she wants to know more, constantly scraping for more information about your family status, parental savings and inherited riches and even your savings. This is a sign of her analyzing you with a purely monetary perspective.
She Is Obsessed About Your Social Image
Every time you guys are out, she seems obsessed with the kind of image you folks project as a couple. Yes, wanting to eat at the best joints and wearing designer labels is common but if she seems overtly concerned that the smallest of accessory you are wearing might spoil your status and is adamant that she cannot be seen at the “wrong” (any place known for its budgeted offerings) places, chances are high that your girl is just too materialistic—typical signs of a serial gold digger.
She Lives Beyond Her Means
She might be living in a very basic accommodation, might belong to a humble household but only wears the best of brands and demands to be taken to premium, select locations only. This is a definite sign of a lady using her boyfriends for maintaining a lifestyle she cannot afford. She repeatedly asks you to repay her bills, from mobile refills to her room rent—this is a definite sign that your presence in her life doesn’t matter, your bank balance does.
She Hasn’t Heard About Paying Herself
Agreed that men are supposed to collect the bills but this doesn’t mean that she cannot contribute the bare minimum occasionally. If there has been an incident where you elbowed her to pitch in and she threw a b!tch fit, she’s definitely one of those women who treat men like their ATMs.
She Doesn’t Expect Gifts, She Demands Them
Women need to be flattered and cajoled with gifts, some need them regularly and for some, an occasional gift too works well. However, if your lady seems adamant about being gifted according to her preferences, even dictates what she wants and forces you into gifting her, there is little doubt in her being just another gold digger. Remember a gift should be appreciated and should be a bit unexpected and not demanded like a constitutional right.
She Is Way Out Of Your League
You had thought about it when you first started dating her but not it has become more than obvious that she is definitely beyond your league, someone who could have easily gotten somebody far better. If this realization surfaces with the gold digging traits discussed above, it represents a big certainty that she has been dating you merely to finance her needs.